Grief at the Holidays

We lost two significant people in our lives in 2010.  For their families, it is the first holiday season without them and it is not easy.  Grief takes many forms, is unpredictable in when and how it will be felt and expressed.  People often wonder what they can do to help.  We do not necessarily have to do anything.  Our Reiki master, Myra, often uses the phrase, "holding that space."  At first, I had a hard time grasping what she meant.  It is being there, allowing the person to just be and accepting, loving that person just where he or she is at that moment, without jumping in to rescue.  Maintaining our own boundaries is crucial to this concept.  It does not mean we do not care, that we do not also grieve.  It does mean we are each on our own path, with our own lessons and we can not learn another person's soul lesson.  The person who passed to the other side also had his or her soul lessons and it was time to transition back to the higher frequency of the spirit plane.  Peace, Light and Love to our family and friends.  God speed Pat and Joe.